To speak or Not to speak?

P.S. here is a not so current pic of our family.. that is my dad on thr right!

I have come to the conclusion, that there are some things that are better left unsaid. No matter how hard you try, sometimes you just can't help but put your foot in your mouth. While i am not going to delve into all the gory details, i will add that while i love my hubby sometimes i want to shoot him. it never ceases to amaze me that he can be loyal even when that loyalty is so not deserved, which to be honest is one of the great many things that i love about him. now that said, back to my point...i hate people! i think that people freaking suck. i guess since i did not grow up in a family that was entrenched in "togetherness" sometimes i have a hard time with it. But it seems to me that "togetherness" is overrated once you are married and have a family of your own. Isn't the whole purpose of raising our kids to teach them how to grow up and have families of their own? why then would you encroach yourself upon your child's family in every possible way? why would you then, guilt your child if they chose to live their life, and the lives of THEIR FAMILY with out your every input? Perhaps it is just me, and my jaded family life talking. But i really don't think so. While i love my hubby, most of the time it's his "family" that i could really do without. It seems that when they are involved, everything is magnified 100X's, and well that is not always a good thing. It seems that the more they are involved, the more they drive others away.