Ignorance Isn't Always Bliss

Those of you that know me, know that I am what most would consider a Realist. I am not one to see the good in everyone, I am the one that wants to know what you want, and what you are going to get out of it. My sweet Sammy J on the other hand..well he's the one that see's the good in everyone and every situation. This is one of the things that I love most about him. Sadley this is also one of the things that I hate as well.

Being who he is, He is taken advatage of on a consistent basis. It is so frusterating to sit back and watch this all unfold in front of you. It sucks to know that while he is going out of his way to do something nice, it is not going to be appreciated. But heaven forbid that he doesn't do what ever was asked of him. I love how he is so willing to give of himself and his time, I just wish that he was a little more stingy. He works so hard, between school and work and trying to cram time with us at home as well. So to see how ungrateful some people are when that time that is so precious to us is given so freely...well it makes my blood boil! And to make things worse...it caused so much contention between us. I think that we argue more about outside issues than we do any other time. I am not saying that we never disagree or that we never fight because that would not be the truth. We argue, we disagree, but we also make up and agree to disagree. But when the "other stuff" comes up..it makes it hard to make up. It makes me sad, and I know that it makes him sad too...I just don't know how to get my point across without puting some serious ultimatums on the table; and I do not think that doing that would be constuctive at all. I know that life is not going to be Roses and Sunshine all the time, nor do I expect it to be..but a few good days here and there...is that too much to ask?

Crazy Things are happening!

Here is the crazy thing..So I am now on facebook..as all can see by the previous post..But the CRAZY stuff is that all the friends that I have..are all people who I grew up with in the church! Everyone is from my stake in Orange..well at least most of them are anyway. There are a few others scattered here and there. Crazy, crazy stuff..Facebook is the "Mormom" Myspace!!

Face Book

As if I don't already have enough to do, or waste enough time on the Internet on things such as Babycenter, or Blogstalking..I have now joined the "Facebook Family"! How sad it is when my Mom has a Facebook page before me...and I think that she has more friends than I do as well. Oh well, now I have another mindless pleasure to wittle away my day at. Oh, and the best part..I made one for Sam too! Now HE has to do it with me! I think that it would have been really cool if we could have had a "joint" page..you know like one for our family; but I could not figure out a way to make it work, so at least we are linked cause we are married! Although when I added it to mine, Sam called me and wanted to know why I was telling lies about him. Guess he didn't want it getting around that he has a wife...oops!!

Stupid People Suck

For the record, This is a VENT!!

There, now that I have that little "disclaimer" out in the open, here it goes!!

So, as I have previoulsy addmitted too, I am a BBC addict. That said normally I really enjoy my time spent on that site. I really enjoy having a place to go and "chat" with other LDS ladies, learn some new things, listen to new ideas, etc. But lately it seems that I have been setting myself up for trouble. I seem to be "drawn" to threads that are going to get me in trouble! I find it really sad, and extrememly irritating when people are so closed minded, and naive about life in general. Just because you choose to live in a little bubble does not mean that the rest of of world does or that they should have too.

So, here is the "real" story as to why I am so pissed. 1st of all, I should never have clicked on this thread, "Spin off: The Duggar's, and Plan B". Just the title alone should have been a HUGE red flag for me, NOT to open, read, and post...but feeling optomistic, and confident in my "grown upness" to not get sucked into something that was going to get ugly...I read, and posted. Then someone esle posted, and then another...here is where it gets..."sticky". This person, posted stating their opinion, fine, I felt it was closed minded, and narrow, and well kind of stupid, but I held my tongue. With all my being all I wanted to do was tell them how wrong they were...but I didn't. I came here to my own little sactuary to scream and yell and be as right as I want to be.

So, here is the deal with Plan B...it's a Emergency Contraceptive. Key word here EMERGENCY. It is not supposed to replace or be used in place of traditional birth control. This other poster who we will call..."Bob"...did not seem to grasp this simple concept. I am not saying that birth control is for everyone, or that it should be used by everyone. But to dictate how something should or should not be used is stupid in my opinion. And luckily, my opinon is the only one that matters here! Yeah ME!! Anyhow, reading the posts that Bob was making just kept putting my back up, KWIM? I just do not understand how people can choose to be so naive, and judgemental. I mean not every chick that needs to use a product like Plan B went out and got drunk and had irresponsible and reckless sex the night before. And to assume so, is stupid and worng. And to assume that every Dr. is going to be willing to prescribe such a thing is not only naive, but extremely stupid as well. I love my OB, I think that he is the best ever! Would never change unless he died, and then, I do not know where I would go. That said, I know that there are somethings that he will not prescribe, or do. I know that he will never prescribe an IUD, or preform a abortion, or tie my tubes. He feels that these are for the most part "morally" wrong. The "tie tubes" thing is more of the hospital choice than his I think!! But I know that he would never prescribe something like Plan B. He just doesn't believe that they are "moral", he feels that every pregnancy is a blessing, and so forth. While I am sure that there are some exceptions to this rule of thought, I am only speaking to what I know.

So, to assume that my Dr would give this drug to me is absurd. To make it difficult to get only forces other options to be explored. While I would never have an abortion, that does not say that someone else would choose otherwise, and it's not my place to make a choice or judge them either way. I know that when I "needed" this option, I had to go to Planned Parenthood to get it, and it would have been easier to just have an abortion than to get this "Emergency Contraceptive". Sad, but true. Plus you have to take into account the hospital ER as well. I am not to sure that unless I was raped or some such horrible thing would I have been able to get this Rx at my local hospital being that it is a CATHOLIC hospital, and we all know how they *the Catholic church* feels about Any kind of birth control.

Well, glad that I got that all out of my system, better here than on some stupid message board right? I guess my lesson learned is this, People who choose to remain naive and intollerent are then choosing to be ingnorant. And these are people who you can not reason with nor can you try and change their silly views.

The Countdown

only 1 week and 6 days till my birthday! not that i am counting or anything!

Caleb had a Birthday

Is it just me? Or are all the boys on 1 side with the girls on the other?? It was not planned that way, I think it just "happened"

Caleb LOVES The Huge Dinosaur exhibit that is all outdoors! They even have this little "play area" for little ones!

The Birthday Boy and all his friends...and a little sister as well!

*from left to right* Delilah, Caleb, Nate, Jay, Ethan, and Paige* on the Magic School Bus

Ok, so technically Caleb's birthday was the 8th of Jan, but he had his party today. We braved the Discovery Science Center, on the "opening day" of the new Magic School Bus exhibit. We had a blast! I am so glad that the kids that he wanted to invite are the coolest kids! They are so nice, they always do their best to include Caleb, even when he is having a hard time. It made him feel so good, to have his friends there today. I think that he had a blast. He was so sad when it was time for all of us to leave, he wanted all his friends to come in our truck, and come back to our house to play. I am hoping that he will be up for some playdates soon. He has had a few here and there, but he has a hard time.

So, the new exhibit was so cool! They had this HUGE school bus, that the kids could walk around, and had some cool "science" stuff inside..Now it was not an actual school bus, but the kids had a blast just the same. We played, and played, and then it was time for lunch! And thanks to MOM/Grandma for helping us set up lunch! So we had, PB&J, Cheetos, Capri Suns, and Cupcakes for dessert. Oh, and we can't forget the grapes!! Caleb, opened his presents. He loved everything, he was so excited to see some more "art stuff", as Nate so cutely put it! He could not have had a better party! I am glad that I conceeded and let him have it there..(the science center)...it was much easier than I had thought it would be!

Just a Reminder

A fellow BBC patron posted this on The LDSFamilies board, and it really hit home for me.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=84FHZhB5__Y

Listen to the words, they will soften your heart too. Sometimes we all just need a little reminder, that we are all a little different.

Another Trip to the Big "D"

Well, I think that we * the kids and I * have made a grand total of 3 trips to Disneyland this week alone. We were there on Wed...we went to Calif. Adven with my parents and lil sister Alison..then Caleb, the "little girls" and I were there on Thurs for his B-day. They *D-Land* has this great program this year, you can get a Free 1day/1 park ticket on your birthday..or if you are pass holder like we are, you have some other options. Caleb *chose* to get a Birthday Card with the amount of a 1day/1park ticket price on it. He was thrilled! I was thrilled! He wanted to go shopping right away! Of course, he was a bit overwhelmed with all the possibilities at first, and since we were on a time constraint, we had to make it a quick trip. He ended up getting a Happy Birthday mickey ears hat, with his name on it of course! I love that the HUGE merch. store at DownTown Disney now does the names when you buy the hat! And it's FREE!! Always a perk!!

Okay, so now that accounts for days 1 and 2..so now on to the "infamous" day 3!! Well, Krista and Sam and I took all our kids on Friday afternoon/night. We left right after the kids got out of school. We got down there with no major incidents....then we got into the parking lot. And I swear it seems like as soon as we get any where near that place my kids turn into little monsters! The whining and complaining started, they were hungry, they were tired, they did not want to walk, etc, etc. So we get all loaded up, get to the tram, and wait...luckily we did not have to wait long for a tram. That was the upside! We headed to Calif. Adven first...mainly because it closes earlier than D-land....The 1st ride that Caleb wanted to go on, was Monsters Inc..we waited in line, are almost to the front...and then....the ride breaks! I was like," Are you kidding me?" So, we move on...the kids went on a couple or other rides before we headed over to the "big D".

If we thought that Calif was busy, boy were we wrong! Dland was much busier, and the line to buy tix was insane!! I mean we headed to Dland at like 6pm, and unless Dland does some sort of discount tix price after a certain time, it just seems like a lot of $$ to waste to me! Any who, so we go on a few rides, at this point everyone is getting tired, and hungry. Seeing as the kids have gone through all the snacks that we brought, we talk about heading home to eat and get the kids to bed. Here is where things went really wrong. I say to Sam, "Hey should WE take Caleb to get his present at the Big Store at DTD?", He *Sam* hears," get Caleb a present from the big store at Dland." So he says, lead we will follow. So I lead, But they are unable to follow...Now here is where things get sticky. I have Caleb and Delilah *who I am carrying in a sling* with me, and Sam and Krista have the rest of the kids and 2 giant strollers..OK to be fair, mine is the only "giant" stroller we have with us. They *Sam and Krista* did not know that We *Caleb, Delilah, and I* left the park, We did not know that They had not been able to follow us. And the icing on this sad cake is this...Sam had not only HIS cell, but Mine as well. Great planning on our parts huh??

Well, this sad tale ends with Caleb getting a seriously annoying toy, We getting lost at DTD, me needing my inhaler, bumming $.50 from a total stranger, freaking out the tram employees *having a combo panic/asthma attack*, and FINALLY finding Sam and Krista and assorted children. Needless to say I was not a very happy person. My poor kids, and Krista and hers. They all felt really bad, and I was really mad to boot! Sam and I "talked"...okay we "had it out" in the car, and were fine by the time we got home.

Now for the moral of this story....Never be at Dland without a cell ph. Because odds are that you will get separated from those that you are with, and people suck...oh yes,I failed to mention that I asked 3, yup count em' 3 people to borrow their cell ph's....one guy *the prick* told me so nicely," there's a payphone right there!" I will refrain from what my reply was, as I am not sure who reads this blog. I can assure you is was ummm colorful, shall we say? So, I made my call, found everyone, got to the car, got home. And that is the end of my week at the "Happiest Place on Earth"...yeah right!

Happy New Year!

I am so excited that 2009 is finally here! I have never been so glad to see 2008 out the door! While it's been a year of ups and downs, there were definetly some perks to '08 **ie: Delilah Rose**. But I am looking forward to a new year, with all the possibilites that it holds, the clean slate that it rang in at Midnight..

Thanks Debra, for forcing us off the couch, and making us celebrate the coming of the new year! The party was a blast..even Sam had fun!! What a great way to start off the new year!! With Good Friends, and Great Food.

Happy New Year to all, and to all a great nap!